Monday, January 13, 2014

Who I Want to Be in 2014

Belize, June 2013
Photo by Stjepan Alaupovic
Like pretty much every other human being on earth, I like to sit down at the start of a new year and set some personal intentions. I also think it's important to reflect on the year that's just passed - not only on things you want to improve, but things you've done well. Positive reinforcement goes a long way. Try it.

It's the middle of January and I'm only now sitting down to write out my thoughts. I would feel guilty about this...if I hadn't set a resolution at the start of 2013 to stop forcing myself into a "should" schedule based on the world's criteria instead of my own. Besides, I think we owe it to ourselves to just enjoy the fleeting holiday season and not focus so much on what's next, which, ironically, is one of my goals for 2014.

Any way, after much reflection these past two weeks, here's what I decided. Hold on to your seats.

Good Things that Came from 2013:
  • The first was a team effort so this gold star is also dedicated to my husband. I'm really proud of the fact that we made it through our first whole calendar year in New York City without any major catastrophes. Let's hope that continues.
  • Piggybacking on that, we celebrated our one-year wedding anniversary in June and I'd say we've taken some positive steps toward establishing our "together" life - learning to budget as a couple, fighting fair, being each other's support system.
  • I made a lot of mistakes, but I forced myself to learn from them and I didn't beat myself up (too much) when I made them.
  • I took time to breathe before I reacted when I was angry or upset.
  • I made a conscious effort to judge less and love more. (Notice, I made the effort. I didn't always succeed, but there was noted improvement. Why are we always so quick to form an opinion?)
  • I worked hard to let go of things I couldn't control and worked extra hard not to weigh myself down with thoughts like "I should be..." and "Why am I not..."
My Intentions for 2014:
  • I will not kiss any ass. In other words, I will not give compliments that aren't warranted. In my industry, especially in a large market like NYC, networking is extremely important. That's fine, I've come to terms with that fact. Unfortunately, this has spawned a major ass-kissing epidemic. I think it's the absolute worst. I also think it's detrimental to the person and our industry in the long run. It makes people complacent. So, I will not kiss ass. I will also (try) to only give my opinion when someone asks for it. I hope that this will send a vibe into the universe for people to do the same with me, because I don't want to be surrounded with people who only tell me what they think I want to hear.
  • Next, I'll champion every freaking person I come across who deserves it. People who are doing great work. People who are spreading love and kindness. My friends and family. The stranger on the street who looks like they need a smile. I will spread love, kindness and positive energy.
  • I'll join in the effort to stop spreading misconceptions, lies and otherwise untrue things.
  • I'll continue to be a girl's girl.
  • I'll find something to celebrate every day, no matter how small.
  • I'll start putting myself first, sometimes. I will manage other people's expectations of me and in the process learn to manage my expectations of other people.
  • I will make time with my husband, family and friends a priority over work.
  • I won't always think about what's next.
  • I'll stop feeling guilty about not living every. moment. of. my. life. online. (That's tough for a travel blogger.)
  • I'll embrace my own personal journey and stop comparing it to other people's. 
Wish me luck.

What is your biggest accomplishment from last year?

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